Being Pathetic

8 Jul

A basic tenet I find revealed by experience is that mentally sound people dedicate most of their energies to efforts that are relevant, responsive to their direct efforts, and fruit-bearing.  They don’t allow shoulds to drown the is.  To inspire it, sure, but not to hypnotize it.

A common way to cloak alienation of this basic drive is to obsess over ‘other people’.  Then, the personal initiative is replaced with a blame game.  “I’m impotent, but I can still feel good about blaming others for my problems/injustices.”  This is the Super Loser Deluxe.  The idea is that it is ‘other people’ and ‘the world’ that are supposed to help me help myself.  It’s a bad attitude because it de-emphasizes the only serious and reliable source of care and help I have — my initiative!  This loser attitude assumes that I shouldn’t have to care about myself and act accordingly.  Others, perhaps the entire Universe, ought to be doing it for me!  While many go on and on about politicians, how many of them are wasting precious time and energy which could be very productively applied to their own lives?  The irony is lost.  Lost forever.

Maybe I am getting screwed, but doesn’t my dignity actually depend on focusing on what’s possible to me and not what should be possible?  Of course!  The lotto is a great example of this attitude.  Washington State’s Lotto calls itself the “imagination department”.  There’s nothing wrong with imagination, but it’s better applied to some feasible goal a person actually has some control over in this context.

The loser mindset enjoys seeking out these situations.  So it will find them, create them, imagine them, and do whatever it has to do to flee the call to courage.  It is considered unthinkable that the person might actually stand up for themselves or take the big risks necessary to approach a better situation, and this inconceivability is willfully confused with impossibility.  At the end of the day, it’s basically all a big farce to hide from sobering truths such as, “I was weak and pathetic and decided to submit instead of fight.  Now my whole life is premised on burying this horrible truth.”

That’s mostly what it is.  I’ve been there enough to know.  At base, the person is seeking to promulgate a lie: there was no choice.  I am not a victim of myself.  In many cases, however, there was some choice.  But the person has learned how to blot this fact out from their awareness.  That’s the point of all the shenanigans to begin with!  But probably the choice was petrifying.  It would have meant confronting a feared family member, or challenging a boss, or defying a physically dominant person, etc.

I’ve learned to notice this mindset as a major red flag in potential friends or associates.  It’s one thing to make note of the impediments in one’s life, and another thing entirely to vainly spend energy on grieving over them to the deliberate exclusion of more promising activity.

People without a strong sense of the Sacred will tend to forget this sort of thing.  If nothing is Sacred, then there are no difficult choices.  It’s very convenient for those who are fleeing the scene of the betrayal.

‘Rights’ are earned things.  Much as bills of universal rights are yelped about, these things only exist because someone or some group of persons asserts them in deed, not because the proclamations are the result of the imaginary fairness monster who will finally make us all whole and assure us that life can always be safe and easy.

When thinking about the concept of liberty in the past, I eventually realized that the whole account always depended on a definitive Sacred.  There’s always something that is asserted as beyond sacrifice or commodity(assertions don’t always win out, but the point is that it is asserted as such).  It may differ from case to case, but it’s still there.

Put another way, choice has to somehow be given meaning.  Especially longer-term choices and plans which go far beyond what our instincts provide for.  If all choices are equally meaningless, then liberty is DOA.


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